By Kris Di – I heart intelligence
Life is unpredictable and can drastically change when you least expect it. In a matter of seconds, everything you hold dear can seize to exist.
The life it took so long for you to build from the bottom up can collapse when you least expect it. Unfortunately, even the people you love that are next to you today, might not live as long as you hope they would.
The most saddening part of it is that we never truly appreciate how fortunate we are until it is too late. We don’t realize how lucky we are to have such wonderful people around us until they are taken from us.
Here are 11 things that you will experience when you lose your parents:
1. You will come to fully appreciate the importance of family
We used to roll our eyes when they would say, “I only want what’s best for you.” Now we understand they really meant it.
2. You won’t have the power to function properly for a while
This crushing experience will change your life and affect both your emotional and physical states. It will take a while for you to heal and see life with a clear vision again. But, in time, you will be alright.
3. You will feel broken and alone
The pain will always stay in your heart, to remind you how cruel and unfair life truly is. It will never leave you. No matter how hard you try to break free from the chains of sadness, you will not find enough strength to do it permanently. But in time, you will accept it.
You will experience physical sickness, and you will wish more than anything that your parents were there to make you a warm dinner and care for you.
5. You will feel uncomfortable listening to other people complain about their parents
6. In fact, you will envy them because they still have parents to spend time with
You won’t ever understand them because you would give anything to have your mother hug you once again and tell you that all will be well. You will be jealous of their blessing, and you will secretly curse them for complaining about having to spend time with their mom and dad.
7. The sadness will never truly go away
There will be times when you will cry your eyes out just like you did when they passed away. The pain transforms with time, but it is never fully gone.
8. The holidays will never be the same
The lights of Christmas will be dimmed. Your father won’t be there to call you up and remind you to get a bottle of wine. Your mother will no longer be there to let you know that the table is all set and everyone is waiting for you. Your parents won’t be around to play with your children and share their own funny childhood stories with them. The holiday seasons will never be the same again.
9. You will still feel an urge to call them when you have important news
10. You will learn secrets
You will uncover things about your parents’ past that may make you uncomfortable. You will understand that they were actual people, not just parents and will never know how to handle that because you cannot talk to them about it.
11. You will realize how much you truly loved them
That is the sad thing about loss. You only realize how strongly you loved someone when they are not in your life any longer.
They will no longer be there to see you succeed and grow into the person they inspired you to become.
If you are lucky enough to still have parents, do not forget to tell them how much they truly mean to you. Visit them regularly, spend quality time with them, call them often to let them know you care for them. Simply be there for them and cherish every moment you get to spend as a family.